01 Oct ‘Stuckness’ & Breaking Free
Being stuck in a painful or unsatisfactory situation is one of the most unhappy experiences a person can suffer and underlies many of the ailments for which people seek (or do not seek) counselling and psychotherapy. Individuals can be bound by their own habit-patterns, for example in the way they react to situations (with anger, anxiety, etc.) or in their relationship with alcohol or drugs, etc.
Couples can be stuck in relationships that are not bringing them fulfilment or that put themselves or others at risk. Even whole families can be stuck, with family members finding breaking free from the ingrained ways in which they relate to one another very difficult.
That feeling of being stuck and unable to move forward in one or more aspects of your life can be one of the key indicators that psychotherapeutic help is required, but it is equally possible that people can be stuck without realising it. The ways in which we act upon and react to our environment are shaped by the complex interplay of our experiences and personal psychologies. This forms the lens through which we perceive the world and, just like a camera lens, it is transparent.
Often we are aware of what binds us, yet feel powerless to escape, paralysed by fear, preferring to remain stuck in a comfortable yet unfulfilling place rather than face what it is we are afraid of. And even if we do have the courage to tackle our fears we can still be stuck if our actions are ineffective.
Breaking Free with Professional Help
It takes a lot of courage and self-awareness to admit that we need professional assistance to become unstuck, but the rewards of breaking free from our limitations can be life-changing.
Qualified and experienced psychologists and counsellors have access to an extended range of powerful, evidence-based therapeutic techniques slowly developed over many years of research and clinical practice. These tools include Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), motivational interviewing and psychodynamic therapy.
It is well-known that the shortening autumn days can affect brain chemistry and lead to psychological crises. The importance of finding the courage to seek help at such times should not be underestimated, as the desperation to become unstuck can have tragic consequences. Taking that first step towards breaking free may be challenging but it is always worth the effort.
For more guidance on breaking free, select the ‘Being Stuck’ option from the category menu.