17 Dec In a Relationship with a Narcissist?
If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, make sure 2015 is the year you “get out” – but make sure it is at the right time for you.
I’m sorry if that seems a dramatic thing to say, but that is nothing compared with the drama somebody with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) will inflict on your life. We are all narcissists at times but NPD sufferers are mentally ill and rarely, if ever, recover. In fact ‘sufferer’ is the wrong term to use because narcissists make sure they do not suffer. They avoid the trauma of having to look within by projecting all of their self-hate and lack of esteem on the co-dependants that feed them their narcissistic supply; it is the narcissists’ victims that suffer – and that’s why you need to get out fast. Being in a relationship with a narcissist is nothing to be ashamed of. Many narcissists are skilled in the art of charm and seduction and their game – for that’s what it is to them – is particularly calculated and insidious.
Are you in a relationship with a narcissist?
Watch out for:
- Childish behaviour when attention is lacking (e.g. sulking or becoming angry).
- A lack of empathy. In fact, narcissists will typically get angry when you’ve had a bad day!
- An inability to take criticism.
- An attitude of superiority and entitlement to special treatment.
How prevalent is NPD? Psychiatrists put the prevalence somewhere around 1% but the number will be more than that: relatively few NPD sufferers admit they have a problem and those that do tend to regard any therapeutic intervention as beneath them.
For more on narcissism and how to escape a relationship with a narcissist see my book (available from Amazon and Apple iTunes) – Narcissism & Codependency:Both Sides of the Coin.